Succeeding without losing yourself in the process

"Women are the greatest untapped natural resource on the planet." -Regena Thomashauer For years I believed I needed to be something and someone other than me in order to succeed. ⁣ ⁣ I didn’t think me as ME could succeed. ⁣ ⁣ I mean, why would I? ⁣ ⁣ Everything I was consuming was telling me directly or indirectly that I had to be different than me to “win”. ⁣ ⁣ The people I saw modeling success were doing so from a...

Force vs. Power

There’s a difference between force + power. ⁣ When it comes to leadership, much of what we see modeled is FORCE. ⁣ It’s domination⁣. It’s hierarchical⁣. Power is different. ⁣ Power doesn’t need to force. It flows. ⁣ Power doesn’t have to demand. It commands. ⁣ Power is self-connected, self-led and exudes an essence sooo wildly + inexplicably magnetic that other people cannot resist her presence. ⁣ There is no force...

You can unlearn their stories

It’s real easy for me to seek outside myself for the answers. What should I wear? What should I say? What books should I read? What should I eat? What course should I take? Who should I follow? What should I study? Who should I trust?My questions all some version of “What’s the right thing to do?”One of my biggest drivers is to not be wrong.In that state, I was at the mercy of everyone else while simultaneously reinforcing the (total...

Why am I so tired?

I don't understand why I'm so tired... ⁣ For years, I needed to find a reason to explain the way I felt. ⁣ ⁣ ESPECIALLY if the way I felt meant that I didn’t want to work. ⁣ ⁣ Do you relate?⁣ ⁣ It was as though the fact that I was feeling tired wasn’t a good enough reason to rest, so I needed to search for some sort of justification. ⁣ ⁣ I see this a lot with entrepreneurs. ⁣ ⁣ We have so many tasks⁣ ⁣ We have...

Are you waiting to be chosen?

If I abandon my authentic self in an attempt to be chose, even if they choose me... I will KNOW it wasn’t me they chose. ⁣⁣This can lead to anger, resentment, sadness + depression. ⁣⁣Here’s how it showed up for me…⁣ I didn’t set or honor my boundaries ⁣ I felt obligated to say yes when I wanted to say no ⁣ I was afraid to slow down — let alone stop⁣ I was demanding perfection from myself⁣ I was using my inner critic...

Sabotage is a solution

The ones I loved were watching me destroy myself and declare it was in service to them If our needs are unmet as children, we can develop a belief that we are unworthy of being taken care of.    ⁣We create this belief because as small children, we think that everything happening in our environment is a reflection of us.⁣⁣So if our needs are unmet, we make it mean that it's happening because there is something wrong with us.⁣When I...

Who am I if I’m not doing?

I was afraid of who I'd be if I stopped "doing"   I was a zero sum thinker. ⁣ ⁣ 𝘇𝗲·𝗿𝗼-𝘀𝘂𝗺⁣ ⁣ /ˈˌ𝘇𝗶𝗿ōˈ𝘀ə𝗺/⁣ ⁣ 𝗮𝗱𝗷𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲⁣ - relating to or denoting a situation in which whatever is gained by one side is lost by the other.⁣ ⁣ My thinking, the byproduct of my wounded masculine, patriarchal programming had me convinced that life was a competition with only 1...

Whatever it takes

You will miss the journey in your race to the finish line I spent much of my life rushing to a finish line that didn’t exist + while missing the journey that did⁣⁣I was working for my worthiness like it was a thing waiting for me at the end of my never-ending to do list ⁣⁣Earlier this year, my body let me know she was done tolerating what she’d been tolerating (amazingly well!) for so many years ⁣⁣She got sick⁣⁣My diet had...

Why are you doing what you’re doing?

It's not about WHAT you're doing, it's about WHY you're doing it it is super easy for us to judge others based on the things we see them doing (or not)...   we often judge based on comparisons of what WE like and what is working or has worked for US...   things like:   + how they care for themselves + their work ethic + their relationship to food or alcohol + how and whom they date + their sex life and choice of partner(s) + how much rest...

Just because you’re not dealing with it doesn’t mean you’re not dealing with it

Fine is not a feeling   full speed ahead 24/7/365 causes crashes   i know because i've been on the floor more than once i've lost my sh*t so many times i stopped counting i've cried hysterically after screaming at the top of my lungs when something didn't go my way or plans changed i've been so tense my muscles forgot how to relax i've clawed at my skin to hold down the rage   but you didn't know i wouldn't let you know on the outside i...

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