3 lessons from my new home

“Happiness is found on the way, not at the end of the road.”

We recently moved into a new home.

And, a new home = lots of projects.

So, here’s what’s been happening in my world as of late….

Every.  And, I mean EVERY project we have started has taken waaaay longer and required more than we anticipated.

More shopping

More time

More effort

Go on and gift yourself some celebration.

You deserve it.

Look at how much you have done, how much you are accomplishing, how far you’ve come, and give yourself a well deserved high-five!

time we think, “YES!!!  We’ve got everything we need!” we find ourselves back in the Jeep (often with what we just purchased) and headed back to Home Depot or Lowes.

Here’s what I know for sure: Every person and every situation can be your teacher.

There are lessons in all things if you’re open to receiving.

Here are a few of the lessons my new home has been teaching me…

#1 – Get started

The truth is, if you are doing something that you’ve never done before, there is literally NO WAY you are going to know exactly how long it will take or what will ultimately be required.

Even if you’ve “done research”.

Even if you’ve “asked around”.

Attempting to know the unknowable will keep you frustrated and stuck in inaction, clinging to your BS excuse as to why you have yet to “go for it”.

Even if you attempt a guess at the time and effort required, you’ll probably underestimate.

And then we get irritated that it’s taking longer than it is “supposed to”.

Does this cycle sound familiar?

My 2-cents?

Stop planning so much.

Stop trying to know the unknowable.

Jump in and start.

The truth is, you will not know what you actually need or what you really want until you begin.

The specific details and your true desires will not be revealed while you’re sitting on your couch thinking.

They will ONLY gain clarity while you are taking action.

#2 – Release the “microwave mentality”

That being said, I get it.

It’s how we’re programmed.

We want results immediately.

And by immediately, I mean yesterday.

You’re a human and so am I.

There is a part of me that wants my results yesterday too.

But that’s not going to happen.

And, my expectations that it SHOULD will keep me frustrated, aggravated, exasperated and NOT celebrating all of the little wins along the way.

And the truth is, there have been a lot of little wins.

BUT… If I keep looking at what’s not yet complete, if I focus on what we still have to do, I will continue to feel behind, overwhelmed, so busy, and like “I just can’t get it together” all of which is BULLSHIT.

Do yourself a favor and release the microwave mentality.

Go on and gift yourself some celebration.

You deserve it.

Look at everything you have done.

Acknowledge how much you are accomplishing.

Celebrate how far you’ve come and give yourself a well deserved high-five!

#3 – The joy really is in the journey

This phrase is repeated a lot and to be honest, I used to roll my eyes when I heard it.

But it’s TRUE.

The fun, the joy, the laughter, and all of the memories are made during the process.

All of the memories I have when I think about our home are of the silly things that have happened along the way.

When I think of my laundry room I chuckle at the number of times we had to go back and forth to Home Depot and Lowes.

I do wonder if the neighbors have seen us naked because there was a good week or so that we didn’t have any blinds.

There’s blood on our wall from when our friend helped us re-wire a light in our kitchen and he got electrocuted and there’s part of me that doesn’t want to paint over it.

We’ve ate dinner on the floor and the stairs and we’ve since upgraded to a card table which doubles as my office since my desk is on the deck partially sanded.
The truth is, the “old me” used to want all the things to be done perfectly and immediately.

And anything less would create stress and anxiety.

Now I know that perfection is an unattainable lie.

My home?

I love how it’s unfolding.

I appreciate how it’s revealing itself to me.

I love the process and what I can now say with absolute certainty is, the joy really is in the journey.

You know, life is fun if you allow it to be.

When we change our perspective, when we change how we’re looking at things, the things we are looking at change.

 

I encourage you to slow down

Stop rushing to be done

Stop rushing to arrive

Stop chasing the achievement

Stop hustling to get “there”

How often are you not fully present because you’re racing to be somewhere else?

 

 

In those moments, we’re missing out…

Missing out on the moment

Missing out on the memories

Missing out on the fun

Missing out on the joy and all the belly laughs

I can almost guarantee that whatever you’re striving to accomplish will take you longer and potentially be waaay more involved and/or complicated that you anticipated.

But I can also guarantee that you’ll enjoy the process if you take the pressure off, and give yourself permission to relax.

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