You may or may not know this, but we have recently moved into a new home.
And, a new home = lots of projects.
So, here’s what’s been happening in my world as of late….
Every. And, I mean EVERY project we have started has taken waaaay longer and required more than we anticipated.
Every time we think, “YES!!! We’ve got everything we need!” we find ourselves back in the Jeep (often with what we just purchased) and headed back to Home Depot or Lowes.
Here’s what I know for sure:
Every person and every situation can be your teacher. There are lessons in all things if you’re open to receiving.
What I want to share today are a few of the mic drop truths my new home has been teaching me:
1. Just jump in and get started.
The truth is, if you are doing something that you’ve never done before, there is literally NO WAY you are going to know exactly how long it will take or what will ultimately be required.
Even if you’ve “done research”.
Even if you’ve “asked around”.
Attempting to know the unknowable will keep you frustrated and stuck in inaction, clinging to your BS excuse as to why you have yet to “go for it”.
Even if you attempt a guess at the time and effort required, you’ll probably underestimate. That’s what we do as humans.
And then you’ll get irritated that it’s taking longer than it is “supposed to”.
Does this cycle sound familiar?
My 2 cents?
Stop planning so much.
Stop trying to know the unknowable.
Jump in and start.
The truth is, you will not know what you actually need or what you really want until you begin. The specific details and your true desires will not be revealed while you’re sitting on your couch thinking.
They will ONLY gain clarity while you are taking action.
2. Your “microwave mentality” isn’t serving you.
That being said, I get it.
It’s how you’re programmed.
You want results immediately.
And by immediately, I mean yesterday.
You’re a human. So am I.
There is a part of me that wants my results yesterday too.
But that’s not going to happen.
And, my expectations that it SHOULD will keep me frustrated, aggravated, exasperated and NOT celebrating all of the little wins along the way.
And the truth is, there have been a lot of little wins.
If I keep looking at what’s not yet complete, if I focus on what we still have to do, I will continue to feel behind, overwhelmed, so busy, and like “I just can’t get it together” all of which is BULLSHIT.
Do yourself a favor and drop the microwave mentality.
Go on and gift yourself some celebration.
You deserve it.
Look at how much you have done, how much you are accomplishing, how far you’ve come, and give yourself a well deserved high-five!
3. The joy really is in the journey.
This phrase is repeated a lot and to be honest, I used to roll my eyes when I heard it.
But it’s TRUE.
The fun, the joy, the laughter, and all of the memories are made during the process.
Here’s what’s true, all of the memories I have when I think about our home are of the silly things that have happened along the way.
When I think of my laundry room I chuckle at the number of times Amanda had to go back and forth to Home Depot and Lowes.
I do wonder if the neighbors have seen us naked because there was a good week or so that we didn’t have any blinds.
There’s blood on our wall from when our friend helped us re-wire a light in our kitchen and he got electrocuted and there’s part of me that doesn’t want to paint over it.
We’ve ate dinner on the floor and the stairs and we’ve since upgraded to a card table which doubles as my office since my desk is still on the deck about 3/4 of the way sanded.
The truth is, the “old me” used to want all the things to be done perfectly and immediately. And anything less would create stress and anxiety.
Now I know that perfection is an unattainable lie.
It is perfectly imperfect and I love it.
I love how it’s unfolding.
I love how it’s revealing itself to me.
I love the process and what I can now say with absolute certainty is, the joy really is in the journey.
You know, life is fun if you allow it to be.
When we change our perspective, when we change how we’re looking at things, the things we are looking at change.
I want to encourage you to stop.
Stop rushing to be done.
Stop rushing to arrive.
Stop chasing the achievement.
Stop hustling to get “there”.
How often are you not fully present because you’re racing to be somewhere else?
You’re missing out.
You’re missing out on memories.
You’re missing out on fun.
You’re missing out on joy and belly laughs.
I can almost guarantee that whatever you’re striving to accomplish will take you longer and potentially be waaay more involved and/or complicated that you anticipated.
But I can also almost guarantee that if you take the pressure off, relax and enjoy the process, you’ll create beautiful memories with friends and loved ones.
There will be more laughter.