Care about other people's approval, and you will always be their prisoner. -Lao Tzu people frequently ask me this question: how do i stop giving a sh*t about what other people think? my answer? you can't. i kid. but not really. the truth is, anyone who isn't a sociopath is going to care what other people think. so, the question is flawed. i'll explain. i have a friend who acts without attachment to the opinions of others. i have always viewed...
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