Allowing the emergence of who you are becoming

Your circumstances will conspire to support your growth I’ve been practicing taking up space in my life by not showing up in many of the places where I am in the habit of showing up. ⁣ Friday afternoon the line to our WiFi was cut. No WiFi = no internet ⁣ I work from home so this means no email, no zoom, no YouTube, no access to online documents and projects, and no access to social media which IS part of my job. ⁣Since Friday...

Succeeding without losing yourself in the process

"Women are the greatest untapped natural resource on the planet." -Regena Thomashauer For years I believed I needed to be something and someone other than me in order to succeed. ⁣ ⁣ I didn’t think me as ME could succeed. ⁣ ⁣ I mean, why would I? ⁣ ⁣ Everything I was consuming was telling me directly or indirectly that I had to be different than me to “win”. ⁣ ⁣ The people I saw modeling success were doing so from a...

You can unlearn their stories

It’s real easy for me to seek outside myself for the answers. What should I wear? What should I say? What books should I read? What should I eat? What course should I take? Who should I follow? What should I study? Who should I trust?My questions all some version of “What’s the right thing to do?”One of my biggest drivers is to not be wrong.In that state, I was at the mercy of everyone else while simultaneously reinforcing the (total...

Sabotage is a solution

The ones I loved were watching me destroy myself and declare it was in service to them If our needs are unmet as children, we can develop a belief that we are unworthy of being taken care of.    ⁣We create this belief because as small children, we think that everything happening in our environment is a reflection of us.⁣⁣So if our needs are unmet, we make it mean that it's happening because there is something wrong with us.⁣When I...

Who am I if I’m not doing?

I was afraid of who I'd be if I stopped "doing"   I was a zero sum thinker. ⁣ ⁣ 𝘇𝗲·𝗿𝗼-𝘀𝘂𝗺⁣ ⁣ /ˈˌ𝘇𝗶𝗿ōˈ𝘀ə𝗺/⁣ ⁣ 𝗮𝗱𝗷𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲⁣ - relating to or denoting a situation in which whatever is gained by one side is lost by the other.⁣ ⁣ My thinking, the byproduct of my wounded masculine, patriarchal programming had me convinced that life was a competition with only 1...

Whatever it takes

You will miss the journey in your race to the finish line I spent much of my life rushing to a finish line that didn’t exist + while missing the journey that did⁣⁣I was working for my worthiness like it was a thing waiting for me at the end of my never-ending to do list ⁣⁣Earlier this year, my body let me know she was done tolerating what she’d been tolerating (amazingly well!) for so many years ⁣⁣She got sick⁣⁣My diet had...

Why are you doing what you’re doing?

It's not about WHAT you're doing, it's about WHY you're doing it it is super easy for us to judge others based on the things we see them doing (or not)...   we often judge based on comparisons of what WE like and what is working or has worked for US...   things like:   + how they care for themselves + their work ethic + their relationship to food or alcohol + how and whom they date + their sex life and choice of partner(s) + how much rest...

Why hire a guide?

We all do better with a guide ⁣In this article I want to address a few of the frequently asked questions about "coaching"   What exactly is a "coach"? ⁣ Why would I need a coach? ⁣ Who hires a coach? ⁣ Are people who hire coaches messed up? ⁣ Does it cost a lot of money to hire a coach? ⁣ What do coaches DO exactly? ⁣ ⁣⁣ What exactly is a coach? ⁣ ⁣A coach is someone who pushes you, challenges you, provokes you, holds...

[ < firestarter > ]

the cannibalistic cycle ⁣⁣of miserable determination ⁣⁣consumed by the me ⁣⁣i now be ⁣⁣⁣⁣the fire ⁣⁣still alive in me ⁣⁣transformed ⁣⁣by me⁣⁣the scathing, self-loathing ⁣⁣giving birth to the breath ⁣⁣of liberation ⁣⁣⁣⁣finally willing to feel ⁣⁣the flames ⁣⁣allowing them to melt ⁣⁣all of the me ⁣⁣i spent my life⁣⁣pretending to be ⁣⁣the pretty me⁣⁣the polished...

Go LOVE Yourself

Self. self/self/noun 1. a person's essential being that distinguishes them from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action. Love. love/ləv/noun an intense feeling of deep affection. a great interest and pleasure in something. a person or thing that one loves. love/ləv/verb feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).   Self-love feels like one of the most talked about concepts, yet I...

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